Lose You to Love Me

"Lose You to Love Me" is a song by American singer Selena Gomez, released by Interscope Records on October 23, 2019, as the lead single from Gomez's third studio album, Rare (2020). The song was written by Gomez, Julia Michaels, Justin Tranter, and its producers Mattman & Robin. It was also co-produced by Finneas O'Connell. "Lose You to Love Me" is a pop ballad with empowering lyrics about discovering one's true self, backed by a choir, piano and strings.